Book: Let’s talk about guys, girls and sex
Author: Swati Shome
The book serves as a myth breaker for those unaware of the science behind sex while for the younger lot it is a book to understand their body up, close and personal….
Books are meant to either immerse you in an imaginative world or a world you know exists but you don’t live in it the way you should. Let’s talk about guys, girls and sex falls in the latter category. Though, it isn’t really a fiction, if you go by the title of the book (that’s what I thought), it is a nonfiction penned with the hope that those who read it, will understand and share the knowledge for the greater good.
Like the author, Swati Shome, herself clarifies in the Author’s note, “This is not a book about erotic stories. But it is still an interesting read. If you think otherwise, please do not inform me”.
Wondering why the author says so? Because she talks about a topic that would otherwise be hushed up in a regular conversation. “Sex is a difficult subject to talk about because it is backed by the power of hormones to make it very emotional… Yet, you, me and every human being on this earth exists because of sex”. True that. As a child, sex education was never really of paramount importance in schools or at home. As you reach adolescence, your body undergoes changes that are told to you either in a hush-hush manner or you discover it in a Biology class. I am sure many of you would have also had a hearty laugh, while discussing the chapter on reproduction. That’s how it is. And that’s all it is. Beyond the occasional glares from parents that you receive while watching an intimate scene on TV, there isn’t much discussed at Indian homes about sex.
Precisely, this is the gap that Shome is trying to address in the book. In fact, she categorically marks it in bold right at the outset, “Make sure you have the consent of the other person when talking about sex”. That it is important to talk about sex with children or someone you feel doesn’t have the knowledge about sex, it is equally important to ensure that the person on the other side is comfortable discussing the topic. Taking real life examples from people around, Shome has woven each chapter breaking myths on the topic, dismissing taboos, and openly discussing what people need to know about sexual intercourse and other acts associated with it. From how sex happens to pregnancy myths, body odours, and other body issues, Shome has tried to make the book look interesting and thorough. What isn’t surprising is the fact that most examples cited from real life are of highly educated people or people who claim to have a broader mindset.
However, the book becomes more like a textbook and is meant for those who are either unaware of sex, or need to understand it well to put up with an argument. Considering today’s generation is smarter than its previous lot, I think the book is meant for those who have all sorts of myths around their head on sex. For the latter, this book serves as a myth breaker. But whether they would like to break the myth or be open to breaking them is questionable. As far as the younger lot is concerned, the book can serve as a guide to them — in real — to ensure they understand their body well, how it undergoes changes, and how it can be exploited. Shome has researched well enough to put together a book that can help encourage sex education in a clear, simple and concise manner.